Now I at least partially know why I didn’t get the username that I wanted while signing up for my new Gmail account.
I knew for sure that ‘madhumita@gmail.com’ would have been taken. My parents did not choose a very unique name for me (though I thank them for at least not choosing a uniquely bizarre name either). I thought if I use a combination of my last name and first name, I would have a greater chance of securing the desired username. So I tried ‘madhumita.datta@gmail.com’. Nope! That was taken already. How about ‘datta.madhumita@gmail.com’? Surprise! Surprise! That was taken too! I wondered exactly how many ‘Madhumita Datta’s grace this world?
Little did I know that less than a year from that moment of wonder, I would be chatting with another Madhumita Datta -- sitting on a sofa in the living room of a fellow Washingtonian, not far from my current home.
I am actively involved with the Washington Metropolitan Area chapter of the Jadavpur University Alumni Association. Sometime in December 2005, the President of the Alumni Association, Aniruddha Bhattacharya forwarded me an interesting email that he received, composed by (you guessed it) some ‘Madhumita Datta’. The email had a news article attached to it about a documentary film that was made by a Kolkata-based journalist Madhumita Datta, portraying the lives of some meritorious students from West Bengal who fought destitution and hardship of all kinds and still performed brilliantly in the statewide secondary examination. Aniruddhada was a little curious. I guess he just wanted to find out whether it was me who had the secret talent of documentary film making! I assured him that it was not me. But by then I was a little curious myself. After all, journalism is my dream profession in my 'alternate life', and the discovery that there actually exists a journalist Madhumita Datta in my familiar corner of the globe had an interesting feeling to it.
The Alumni Association, jointly with the Youth Group of the local Bengali Cultural Association ‘Sanskriti’, communicated with the journalist Madhumita, and invited her to an informal gathering to talk about her documentary and related fund raising efforts to help the students during her trip to the Washington DC area in April, 2006. I was excited that I was finally going to meet my namesake. I googled ‘Madhumita Datta’ hoping to find out more about my namesake and her journalistic accomplishments. Alas! It turned out to be more of an ego trip with most of the top links pointing to the minor worldly details about yours truly.
Anyway, I showed up at the Rockville residence of the hosts Anjan and Gargi Guhathakurta with my seven month old son Gogol on tow on the balmy Spring evening of April 9. Aniruddhada and his wife Anjalidi were there. The kids of the Sanskriti Youth Group were arriving one by one with their parents. Then came Madhumita, the guest of honor for the evening, escorted by her local hosts.
The round of introduction began. As soon as I declared that I happen to be a Madhumita Datta too, to my utter delight, the journalist Madhumita disclosed a bevy of facts about me, all of them accurate! That I graduated from JadavpurUniversity, went on to do my Ph.D. at the University of Maryland, have a blog on Sulekha.com (where there was only a single six-month-old entry until this one), have an infant son who currently reigns supreme in my life...all these are public information now. Looks like somebody else went on an ego trip too! In a world pervaded by Internet, Milgram’s ‘six degrees of separation’ theory has a whole new meaning.
Madhumita was glad to meet my son Gogol, who she already ‘knew’ through my blog. She was missing her own son back in India. We totally resonated on the motherly emotions front. After she returned to India, Madhumita and I exchanged emails with photos of our sons. We are very much in touch through email. Some of the mornings while checking my email, I notice a new mail or two from Madhumita Datta. I often tend to think that it must be an email that I copied to myself for future reference, and tend to not read it then, only realizing moments later that it is from my namesake.
I edit the Jadavpur University Alumni Association annual newsletter. In our 2006 newsletter, I wrote a clip about the meeting with journalist Madhumita Datta. Many who read the newsletter thought that the editor and the documentary maker are the same person. The confusion continues, while I unashamedly enjoy the undeserved glory. After all, my namesake accomplished something to be proud of.
My son Gogol has his own story about his association with the word ‘namesake’. From the moment my husband Bikash chose the nickname ‘Gogol’ for our son (while Gogol was still in womb), he was destined to be entangled into the world of “Namesake”, craftily created by the Pulitzer Prize Winner writer Jhumpa Lahiri. Lahiri’s first novel “Namesake” talks about an Indian-American immigrant protagonist nicknamed Gogol. I have read the novel, Bikash hasn’t. Bikash firmly sticks to his claim that he had thought about the name Gogol based on his childhood memory of the adventures of little detective Gogol, a popular character created by Bangali literary icon Samaresh Basu. Every time a friend or colleague asks me whether we thought about naming our son ‘Gogol’ after reading Jhumpa Lahiri’s novel, I dutifully explain, “No...that is not how we came up with the name. If anything, Jhumpa Lahiri, my husband, and me all grew up knowing the same Gogol in Samaresh Basu’s writing. Years later, Jhumpa christened her fictional character Gogol, and we christened our very real son Gogol”. In the course of this process I have realized how widely the novel has been read, specially when the other day the American wife of a French friend asked the same question! And now that the novel “Namesake” is being made into a mainstream English-language movie by acclaimed director Meera Nair, I am bracing myself to answer the ‘Gogol-Namesake-link’ question couple of thousands more times.
I read in the newspaper that Indian-American actor Kal Penn is playing Gogol in the movie. I am a little disappointed. Not that Kal Penn is a bad actor, but at one point Abhishek Bachchan was slated to play Gogol, and I am a big fan of Abhishek. I almost named my son Abhishek (I mean his formal name, not the nickname), until I decided to go with the name Jyotishko (once again, a name lifted from Bengali children’s literature). Six or less degrees of separation everywhere!
Oh, before I let you go, I just wanted to share with you that though I couldn’t secure ‘madhumita.datta@gmail.com’, I did plunge early enough to grab the email address ‘madhumita.datta@yahoo.com’. So feel free to send your comments at ‘madhumita.datta@yahoo.com’. Ciao.
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Dr Datta,
Quite an interesting account of Namesake. At once it seems quite sinister too, I must admit. I wonder how many Julia Duttas there are in the world. I shall be little surprised if your comment section is filled with many. But really, either the name is common, or the coincidences not uncommon, whichever is true.
Lets try to see. btw, in Washington DC, do you know a Madhulika Gharpurey? I will be little surprised if you do. So much for names and namesake!
Nice post. Interesting read.
Julia
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Highly interesting encounter - I thought one Madhumita Datta was enough for this earth to sustain :) ... By the way, your explanation about naming your son after a well-known Bengali literary character resonates with the fascination Bengalis have with literature. We have trodden on the same path as you (only predating you by five and a half years) by naming our son Apu whose namesake needs no introduction to any Bengali!
By the way, why stop after the Return to Innocence blog? It was a great start!
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Yes!! Madhumita is just like my alter ego..when i get any email form Madhumita i also think, is it me??
.it's an unique feeling !!i think i couldn't explain it properly..
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Hi Nargis,
Thanks for the encouragement. At the rate I post, look for my next posting around February 2007
I wish I was a little more regular.
I read your blog about the London Bridge. Very interesting. Sulekha blogsphere is truly a wonderful place to visit.
-Madhumita.
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I too liked the Namesake but am glad that Abhishekh is not playing Gogol he would have been too indian to play it and would probably have not done a good job with the accents and things. I hope Kal Penn does a good job I have only ever seen him in Harold and Kumar.
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Hi Madhumita,
Needless to say the name of your blog got me interested. Imagine my surprise when I discovered your son's name was 'Gogol'. I am a great fan of Jhumpa and contrary to whatever people think I feel the novel was a great one. Your blog was interesting too and I just thought I'd say so. Carry on blogging! Sulekha truly is a wonderful place to be in
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